As a physical sex coach, I most often work with clients on the following four things:
Sexual dominance
I provide sex and relationship education which most of us never got. It includes accurate information and practical tools to help my clients create deep, meaningful connections and passionate, fulfilling sex lives.
What I share depends on the specific needs and goals of clients, but here is a general list of things I often cover:
- how to expand your love repertoire and try things that sound exciting or edgy
- how to discover your unique activations and share them with your partners
- understanding sexual anatomy and how to help your partner feel more pleasure
- learning what your sex language is
- sexual technique
- how to feel comfortable saying “no” to something you don’t completely agree with
- better seduction and flirting skills
- how to be more intuitive and creative with touch;
- get comfortable with your dominant or submissive side
- how to make real something you’ve always wanted to explore but never felt comfortable asking for
- your attachment style and how it affects your relationships
- And the list goes on…
Turns out there’s a lot to learn when it comes to sexuality and intimacy!
Mindset Mastery
Throughout our lives, we all receive toxic messages about masculinity, femininity, relationships, and sex. We get them from our family, school, religion, culture and of course the media.
I’m sure you’re familiar with the following sexual and gender stereotypes:
- “Women should be able to get wet at the drop of a hat and orgasm easily just from intercourse.”
- “Men should be able to get hard instantly and last as long as needed.”
- “It’s your job to make sure your partner had an orgasm.”
- “You’re not sexy unless you fit into a box of what the media considers ‘sexy.’
Many of these messages are toxic and turn into beliefs that often stay with us for life. If left unchallenged, they prevent you from feeling confident and comfortable with who you are.
So, in order to let go of shame, insecurities, and doubts, it’s important to examine your beliefs, where they came from, and whether they serve you today.
Body Awareness & Mindfulness
Living in a modern Western world often encourages you to treat your body as a vehicle that moves your brain from point A to point B.
While it can help in the boardroom, when it comes to the bedroom, it’s extremely beneficial to “get out of your head” and into your body.
What does it mean to “be in your body”?
It means being fully in the moment, in the here and now, being aware of all the feelings and sensations in your body. As opposed to worrying about what your partner thinks, what you should do next, or comparing your experience to what happened in the past.
Body awareness and awareness is where pleasure and confidence come from.
Clear Action Plan
Humans are creatures of habit. People often cling to things that don’t work for them in the long run just because something familiar will always be preferable to the unknown.
As a sex coach, I create a weekly structure so my clients know exactly what they need to do to make sure they’re making progress toward their goals. I follow with relevant resources such as practices, meditations, videos, books, articles.
While I am my clients’ best cheerleader and make sure they feel supported every step of the way, I hold them accountable for doing whatever it takes to change their behavior patterns and face insecurities.
