BDSM stands for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism. Within this umbrella term/community, there are many roles in the power dynamics that you can play with. A particularly entertaining role is that of the scandalous prankster. In this guide, we’ll cover ways to unleash your inner child and how to navigate this dynamic while maintaining respect, communication, and consent.
What is a Brat?
A type of submissive (sub) role within BDSM who likes to push buttons. Unlike a deadbeat branch that seeks to serve and please, a fool enjoys being insolent or annoying. A child uses these less-than-stellar behaviors to get the attention of their Dominant (Dom)/Tamer, often in the form of punishment – thus playing into the typical Dom/sub power roles.
Find Tamer/Dom
Not every Dom will suit. It’s important to find someone who enjoys the playfulness of a toy and is interested in taming, rather than being regularly served or obeyed. Even when you find a Tamer/Dom, like any dynamic, you’ll need to have conversations about wants, needs, boundaries, expectations, etc., to see if you’re compatible.
Creating the Dynamic
There is a lot that goes into creating and maintaining a consensual and mutually enjoyable Dom/sub relationship, and the Dom/brat relationship is no exception. Whether you’re interested in playing a BDSM scene (an interaction that spans a specific time and place) or living that 24/7 Dom/brat life (where this is how you live your day), keep reading for some tips.
Communication & Consent
Resistance, playfulness, and brashness are part of the game for a brat, meaning brats may resist or pretend to resist what they’re asked to do or how they’re expected to behave. This can be a form of Consensual Non-Consent (CNC), which requires significant communication before the start to make sure everyone involved is clear about the parameters of the game as well as the safe words or actions if something starts to get out of line. limits of . Both Dom and brat must consent to the dynamic. For example, Dom may consent to not being listened to/always listened to and Dom may consent to being disciplined, tamed, or “forced” into submission as a result of not listening to their Dom (which is different from a sub willing to do a Dom’s bidding). This prior consent then allows for a dynamic where something seemingly non-consensual can play out consensually.
Discipline & Punishment
The types of discipline and punishment that can be imposed in different scenarios are part of the communication and consent process. Brats misbehave to get attention and inspire a reaction from their Doms, sometimes in the form of punishment. Therefore, a child who seeks or craves punishment will take steps to lead their Dom to punish them. In order to maintain the emotion associated with being punished, the child may resist, cry, beg, or beg not to be punished, even though it was intended, in order to experience being tamed or forced into submission. .
Therefore, it can be helpful to get specifics about what the discipline and punishment look like to ensure that the dynamic feels rewarding for everyone involved. This may include the feeling of “punishments”. fun, light and enjoyablewhich are used for light discipline and which are used for stronger correction or discipline when a lad does something particularly outrageous. You don’t need to create a menu or rulebook, but you should have a general idea of what the different levels look like in clearly expressed ways to ensure no boundaries are crossed.
It should also include what a Dom is and isn’t willing to do and what kinds of behaviors are acceptable and what aren’t.
Examples of behavior that may lead to punishment
- Annoying someone’s Dom while they work
- Speaking rudely to his Dom or others
- Not to do agreed jobs
- Engaging in behavior a child has agreed to limit (online shopping, watching too much TV, etc.)
aftercare
Aftercare describes how one handles post-scene or post-discipline/punishment scenarios to take care of an individual’s emotional and physical needs. This can include rubbing lotion on red skin, massaging sore muscles, cuddling, checking in, moisturizing, eating, and more. Especially if the Dom/brat dynamic involves CNC, it’s important to include check-ins during aftercare that allow everyone to process experiences that might seem non-consensual.
conclusion
Being a kid can be a lot of fun for the right personalities and lead to exciting and original experiences – a great way to keep a high level of eroticism in your life. Let us know if you have any questions!
