Alpha Males
Alpha males have good and bad traits. Sometimes a trait can be both, depending on how a particular man uses that trait.
First, let’s look at the positive traits of an alpha male.
He is a strong leader
The alpha man is a strong leader who leads by example. This is one of those traits that can fall into both positive and negative categories, especially when it comes to relationships with alpha females.
If you’re willing to give up your leadership role in the relationship, you’ll find that your alpha will always point you in the right direction. This strength makes him a great role model for children, as long as the negatives of this personality trait don’t rear their ugly heads.
The problem with this trait is that an alpha does not see all voices as equal in their relationships. His voice matters. Period.
He has Emotional Intelligence
Not all alphas have this trait, but many do. Emotional intelligence is knowing what you feel and knowing how to manage those feelings. When a man has high emotional intelligence, it also means that he can handle your emotions better, which many men can’t do.
Again, though, not all alphas have this feature, so you want to make sure yours does.
He has confidence
Alphas and betas are both confident types of men. Confidence is a very sexy trait for both men and women, so you’ll notice it in your man right away. Of course, confidence can be a negative if overconfident, but really, what appears as overconfidence is actually a lack of confidence, so be careful!
If he’s really confident, he’ll make big decisions about your relationship. You can trust this guy!
It is growth oriented
Many alpha males focus on personal development, which means he will take an interest in his and yours. If you decide you want to go back to college or learn something new, he will be there to help you in any way he can.
And now for some problematic features
While alphas have many positive traits, some of which you just read about, they also have some that can make a relationship take a turn for the worse.
Alphas are fiercely loyal and protective
Seems like a good feature, right? And it can be sure, until that protectiveness turns into overprotectiveness. He may claim you as his property or area.
Hey, don’t shoot the messenger… anyway, under his protection, you can feel suffocated, which quickly turns bad, especially since you’re also an alpha.
Watch out for the fine line between being protective and controlling. Protective is fine if he installs an alarm system to keep you safe while he’s out of town or walks down the street when you’re out. It’s not okay when he has surveillance cameras all over the house and a tracker in your car.
He is Decisive
How can this be a problem? Determination can be a problem if he thinks that either he is only the one who can make decisions about your relationship the that he believes his decisions are right and everyone else’s wrong.
When two alphas are in a relationship and this issue comes up, your response is to argue with him, but your best tactic is to back off and let him simmer for a while.
He heard your objections and statements against his decision and now he thinks about it calmly. If you give him time, he could come to the conclusion that you were right and may see the wisdom of your opposing thoughts. That doesn’t mean he will give in to them, but he might. Your best course of action may be to gently remind him of your key points when things are going well. This allows him to think about it a little longer and maybe see your point.
It will be difficult for him to admit that he is wrong, so if she consents, make sure you don’t greet or make a big deal about it. Accept his change of heart and move on.
Is honest
Again, how can that be bad? Well, it’s like the old joke, “Honey, do these pants make my butt look bigger?” The alpha male may not be wise to the idea that a little white lie never hurt anything and will say yes, believing that honesty is the best policy. ONE smart Man knows the answer is no, of course, but no one said alphas were always smart 😊
What you need to understand is that if he says something that comes off as negative, the truth is that he does I want you to look great, if for no other reason than that it helps him they look great. His honesty is what he sees as constructive criticism. She is not trying to hurt your feelings but to help you look better. He just has a bad way of doing it.
So which one will it be?
The truth is, I can’t tell you what type of guy you’ll date. All I can do is introduce you to the two types of men you are most likely to encounter and help you understand how you can enjoy a happy relationship with both types.
For the beta male, happiness for him comes when you take control and let him be himself. Guide him to whatever you want him to do.
This doesn’t mean being bossy with him, but having conversations that focus on finding out what you each want out of your life together and then making a plan to get there. He’ll follow your lead, but he’ll do well if you let him have input as well.
Being in any type of relationship requires you to discuss important things, which ultimately include who gets to control what. Be honest and open with him and really listen to what he has to say.
Chances are he was expecting one a long time for a woman who will accept the control he is willing to deliver.
For the alpha male, you will have to relinquish control of many, if not all, things. You can try to discuss it with him and him could give up control, but I wouldn’t count on it.
Regardless of the type of man you choose, understand that there is give and take. How much you give and take will depend a lot on the type of man you decide to be.
