Marriage Quotes That Teach – Marriage Missions International

We’ve mentioned this anonymous person many times, but it bears repeating (because it’s true). Someone once said, “It’s not what you live, it’s what you learn.” And one thing we have learned A LOT from in our married life together is what others have experienced and passed on to others (us) to learn as well. That’s why we value teaching marriage quotes so much. We’re constantly picking them up all the time. And there’s no doubt that they’ve helped our marriage (when we apply them) and hopefully they’ll help yours.

So for this Marriage Insight we will include tips that various “experts” have used to help marriages. We hope you will read it and apply it, which will help your marriage.

If possible, ask your spouse to read these with you and discuss what you think. And if you don’t feel like discussing them, at least read them, pause to let each one sink in, and then see if you can apply any of them to your marriage relationship. These tips are pretty simple to read. but sometimes they can be difficult to implement. Again, see what you think.

Marriage Quotes That Teach:

• A great wedding is not when the “perfect couple” comes together. It’s when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences. (Dave Meurer)

• Many marriages would be better if husband and wife clearly understood that they were on the same side. (Zig Ziglar)

• What counts for a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility. (Leon Tolstoy)

Here is a little testimony that shows, yes, your children is I’m watching you (even if you’ve never realized it):

• I asked our boys what they would do if they were married and their wife got angry and treated them badly. Without hesitation, my youngest said, “I’d keep her.” How could a 4-year-old child know the security a woman feels when a pair of strong arms gently wrap around her? When I’m stressed or anxious, my heart softens instantly if my husband just holds me.

I asked Philip Why he would keep her. He explained: “That’s what dad always says at the ceremony.” Philip had seen several of the vow renewal services from our wedding conference weekends. As in a wedding ceremony, Sam leads the couples to repeat their vows, “To have and to keep from this day forth.” Unlike many married couples, Philip took these vows literally. (Wedding – Foundation Newsletter)

Also note:

• Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love. And they flourish when we love and keep those we marry. (Tom Mullen)

Additionally:

Here is something to prayerfully consider. I/we have both found this to be a useful tool that we often use when we clash with each other:

• Ask yourself: “What difference will what we’re fighting for make ten years from now? In a year? In a month?” (Unknown)

Also consider:

• Real giving is when we give our spouses what is important to them. We give it whether we understand it, whether we like it, whether we agree with it or not. (Michele Weiner-Davis, Divorce Busting)

• Life has taught us that love does not consist in looking at each other but in looking out together in the same direction. (Antoine De Saint-Exupery)

• One of the great illusions of our time is that love is self-sustaining. Is not. Love must be fed and nurtured, constantly renewed. This requires ingenuity and care, but first and foremost, it takes time. (David Mays)

• Why does a married couple who live together every day need to date? It is precisely because they live and sleep together every day. (Bill Doherty, Take Back Your Marriage)

• The challenge is to help couples turn ‘I Do’ into ‘We Can’. (Scott Stanley, prepinc.com)

• Divorcing because love died is like selling your car because it ran out of gas. (Diane Sollee, smartmarriages.com)

• Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The surest way to succeed is to always try just once. (Thomas Edison)

More Teaching Quotes:

• Divorce does not end a family, it reorganizes it. Or, should I say, complicate it? (Ron Deal, Smart Stepfamilies Workshop Smart Marriages Dallas Conference)

• When children are involved, there is no such thing as divorce. (Carl Whittaker)

• So many people have the will to have a strong marriage but lack the ability. (Kathy Beirne, Portland Coalition for Marriage Education)

• We must remember that we do not teach skills to equip me to get what I want and you to get what you want. Instead, we focus on teaching skills that will equip us to maintain our relationship, ours “we”, and our marriage alive. (Terry Hargrave, The Essential Humility of Marriage)

Here are a few more quotes that keep them true:

• All those “and they lived happily ever after” fairy tales should be changed to “and they began the very hard work of making their marriages happy”. (Linda Miles)

• Stephen Covey was asked after a talk about how to forgive someone who has committed adultery. He said the question made him think of the old prayer. “O Lord, let me forgive those who sin differently from me.” (Stephen Covey, author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People)

• One of the greatest achievements in life after being hurt by your spouse is reaching out to forgive the parent of your children. (Unknown)

Here is a quote that we have hanging in our house:

• Marriage is the most daring and idealistic thing most of us will ever do. (Gallagher)

Yes, we can marry with idealistic thoughts. But as they tell us, “Marriage is the real awakening.” It is a wake-up call to grow and lean to grow together (which will require real intention), with the Lord as our guide.

This is the case with the following wedding quote:

• Developing a good marriage is not a natural process. It’s an achievement. (David and Vera Mays)

Yes it is! We know this from personal experience. We also know that it is not the impossible dream. You CAN build a good marriage with determination, much prayer, God’s leading and persistence!

Most importantly: Keep in mind:

More than any passages anyone could show you, the Bible has the best! It is what God expects from us. As you live your life together, remember to apply these principles (and others written in the Bible). This is because “The principles for life, which God gives us throughout the Bible, are also the principles for loving one another well in our marriages.”

For example, note and animate the following:

• Love endures love is kind. He does not envy, he does not brag, he does not boast. It is not rude, it is not selfish, it does not get angry easily, it does not keep a record of mistakes. Love does not rejoice in evil, but rejoices in the truth. He always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

And make sure that “walk in lovein your marriage, as God would have you:

“…Become imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.(Ephesians 5:1-2)

For additional teaching passages

We see these quotes (and others we post daily) as little vitamin pills to help you grow in the health of your marriage. They must be taken and applied.

We encourage you to check out our daily “wedding vitamins” on our Facebook page. You can find them at: https://www.facebook.com/marriagemissions. You can also sign up for daily tweets at https://twitter.com/mrgmissions. We compile them so that husbands and wives can have proactive marriage advice available to help them every day.

There are all kinds of negative influences that attack our marriages every day. That’s why it’s good to have positive influences coming our way. We hope they really help you.

Please know that we are praying for your marriages.

Cindy and Steve Wright

– ADDITIONALLY –

To help you further, we give many personal stories, humor and more practical advice in our book, 7 ESSENTIALS to grow your marriage. We hope you’ll pick up a copy for yourself. (It’s available both online and in print.) Plus, it makes a great gift for someone else. It gives you an opportunity to help them grow their marriage. And who doesn’t need that? Just click on the linked title or image below:

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