Well, isn’t it just delightful when our sex life decides to play hide and seek with passion? The sparks that once flew now seem to have been extinguished by the winds of monotony.
But guess what? It’s completely normal! Sometimes, all you need is a little freshness on the spicy trip to your bedroom to rekindle the fire that once burned so brightly. And one of those exciting options to explore could be slave sex.
WHAT IS SEX WORK?
Bondage is a form of sexual and love activity that involves the consensual use of restraints or restraints for pleasure, creating feelings of vulnerability or control, and exploring power dynamics within a sexual context.
Bondage is one of the forms of BDSM, it involves different ways in which partners enjoy physical control over their sexual practices. The acronyms come from a mix of bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (S&M), and sadism and masochism (S&M).
I WANT TO TRY, WHERE DO I START?
✅ COMMUNICATION
There is a golden rule: BDSM is based on trust and emotional safety. So first of all there should be an honest discussion between you and your partner. Choose a quiet, distraction-free environment where you can discuss your feelings and explore how to apply them to your relationship.
Start by having some adult conversations about desires with your partner. You can start the conversation with something like:
💬 “How about trying something spicy in the bedroom?”
💬 “I heard about this sexy thing they did on that show I watched. Do you want to try it;”
💬 “Remember that hot move you did? Let’s explore more!”
✅ RESEARCH
Another important thing to do is research. Watch different videos, learn about different types of BDSM, and read other people’s stories. From this point, you will be able to show what you prefer, how to be aware of emergency situations and how to be safe but satisfied.
Helpful tip: Don’t do anything you’re not ready for.
✅ RULES AND SAFE WORD
Before diving into the BDSM universe, there are still a few things you need to clear up in the air, and most importantly, set some ground rules and have a safe word. Express your feelings and to set rules for which things are red (hitting, spitting, etc.).
The safe word is recommended not to be related to sexual activities, as sometimes in role play participants may engage in what is known as “consensual non-consent”. This means that they have pre-negotiated boundaries and limits and may implement scenarios where a person appears to be resisting or saying “no” even when they are actually consenting to continue. So try to find a random safe word such as ‘banana’ or ‘oasis’.
✅ TECHNICAL ‘TRANSFER’
A fun way to dive into bonding sex is to use “traffic light” safety checks. So if your partner handcuffs you to the bed and asks how you feel about it, you can say one of the following:
💚 Green – It feels good to keep going
💛 Yellow – It’s a bit too much, slow down.
❤️ Red – I don’t like it, we have to stop.
WHICH SEX GAMES ARE PERFECT FOR BEGINNERS?
So, you’re ready to dip your toes (and maybe more) into the world of kinkiness, huh? So, let’s talk about some essential toys and tools that won’t leave you feeling tied up in knots!
Blinders & Masks
When you will be limited in some of your senses during intimate moments, you may feel more sexually aroused, intimate and incredibly amorous. This definitely adds more passion and intimacy.
Soft constraints
Restraint with gentle restraints such as silk ties, scarves or cuffs increases sensitivity to touch and trust in your partner. Ideal for role-play scenarios involving dominance or submission.
Whippers
Whipping often requires a high degree of trust, communication and negotiation between partners. This can lead to a deeper emotional connection and understanding.
Ball Gags
Amp up your role play with a fun game that limits the talking, adding extra excitement. Make sure your first ball gag is not only comfortable, but also has breathable holes for safety.
Bondage kit for beginners
Not sure which BDSM toys are best for beginners? You can explore different options with a bondage kit for beginners. This makes it easier to get started without feeling overwhelmed.
TRUST YOUR PARTNER AND BE SAFE
In the world of bond sex, it’s important to remember 3 simple rules.
💓 First, communication with your partner is key—unless you’re both mind readers, which, unfortunately, isn’t a shared superpower. So, openly share your desires, boundaries and expectations.
💓 Second, research is your trusted assistant. Before you start tying knots like a sailor, make sure you educate yourself about the ins and outs of safe working practices.
💓 Finally, prepare responsibly. Forget Fifty Shades fantasies. it’s not all about leather and whips. Make sure you have it proper equipment for the job.
So here it is: communication, research and equipment. Master these three elements and you’ll be well on your way to a safe, hot and passionate bondage adventure. Remember, it’s all about fun and consent, not a test of your knot tying skills.
