Today on Dear Sybersue, I discuss how body language can make or break your dating experiences.
When it comes to dating today, some people are very quick to judge, which leaves you with limited time to make a great first impression. You may not be aware of how you come across to others, and if you struggle to meet people or get past the first date, it’s never too late to change what isn’t working. It’s much better to find out why people aren’t attracted to you than to be frustrated and make no effort to figure out why you’re not meeting a potential partner.
Your body language speaks volumes and you may not realize that you are unapproachable.
This may be due to shyness, self-doubt, or lingering anger over a past breakup. This can also happen when you are thinking hard about something and get lost in your thoughts. No matter what the reason, it can often be projected in your body language and come across as withdrawal, impasse, or guarding. Unfortunately, most people don’t wait around trying to figure out who someone is, they just make a quick assumption and walk away.
Polite human etiquette is very important in today’s harsh world, so if you want to stand out, you need to know how people first perceive you. Ask a family member or trusted friend to be honest and tell you what they see and how you come across to others. What is your best quality and what stands out that can give off emotionally unavailable vibes? It’s always a good time to change some behavior patterns that aren’t working and figure out why you still are “Not in a relationship”, when you would like to be.
It’s always good to give your attitude a refresh. We can all use a little tweaking in this department.
We can all be complacent or pessimistic at certain times in our lives, but people who take the time to stay positive and continue to work on themselves will always be in a place of improvement. They understand that in order to remain interesting and fun to be around, they must continue to make an effort to evolve throughout the years. They also understand the importance of how valuable a smile and friendly eye contact can be. He is a natural attractor!
Some people don’t realize they’re walking around with a disgruntled scowl on their face, which is a huge deterrent and deters people from approaching them. (There’s even a term for it called RBF, or resting bitch face!) If you’re not sure how you come across to others, pay attention to how many people talk to you openly and how many people don’t. How do animals and children react to your presence? Are you receptive or closed off? If you’re ready to be in a committed partnership, it’s time to learn what your body language is saying.
Being kind and respectful to the people you meet every day is important!
You can still be a strong confident person and be kind at the same time. It is important to know how you conduct yourself in everything you do in life. Some men and women have had a hard time when it comes to dating and relationship, which can make them feel tired or insecure. This shows up quickly on a date and can ruin any chance of getting a second date. Having an aggressive or high maintenance attitude is a turn off and leaves a lasting impression on how people will constantly judge you.
Relax a little, put a smile on your face and treat each person you meet individually. Some people categorize each other and lump all men or all women into a negative box. Give others a chance before you adopt preconceived notions. It’s not always just about what is or isn’t happening in your world. We all have to deal, that’s life. Learn the lessons you are supposed to learn and move on to a better path. Holding on to things that cause you pain, sadness or anger will always show up in your body language and mindset.
Let your date see why you’re a great person and make them feel special during your time together. Make them want to know more about you. When you’re dating and interested in meeting someone to eventually share your life with, you’ll always attract more bees with honey than vinegar. Let others into your world with encouraging body language and a happy smile on your face.
You don’t have to be a part of the anger going on in our world today. There is always more room for happiness and you can make a difference in someone else’s life just by being authentically “you”.
Sybersue xo <3
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