How to make a woman feel safe in a relationship
How to make a woman feel secure in a relationship is best understood with a story about a single man that women keep falling for.
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Time for a fairy tale
Once upon a time, there was an average guy named John who wasn’t the tallest, richest or most handsome guy, but the ladies thought he was stellar!
He had the ability to ATTRACT and seduce the most beautiful women.
The women John met not only longed to be his girlfriend but fell in love with him.
What did John have that this other average guy didn’t?
He knew how to make women feel safe with him.
Women and Security
If you’ve watched some of my videos, you know that women’s number one need is to feel physically and emotionally safe.
You may also know that women generally don’t feel safe right away with a guy they don’t know.
Let’s go back to John’s story…
After years of being very nice and people-pleasing and constantly being rejected, rejected with friends, or rejected after only a few dates, John began to take small steps to be more authentic and assertive.
So what did John do?
He took small steps until he learned that doing things a little differently had a huge impact not only on his love life but on his entire life.
Physical Security
When John met a girl for the first time, let’s call her Ashley, he made sure she knew he was as worried about her safety as she was.
Most kids don’t do that. They are too busy thinking about rejecting them.
It was in the little things that John did, like…
He changes his posture to ensure he never blocks Ashley’s exit, while at the same time putting himself between her and potential danger – like that creepy guy checking her out.
John didn’t even try to make it subtle.
He might even say, “How about I stand here so you can get a good view.” Winking to let her know they were together.
John knew that Ashley would feel safer having an escape route and that she wouldn’t want to be harassed by Creepy Guy.
Instinctively, Ashley felt protected and understood, which immediately gave her butterflies and made her feel a tinge of attraction to John that wasn’t there when she first saw him.
Sometimes, John used this scenario as open conversation, playfully teasing a pretty girl he’d just met, saying, “Don’t worry, I’ll protect you from that creepy guy.”
She usually got a giggle or giggle, which she knew meant she was open to conversation.
Rejection
Now sometimes, the girl didn’t laugh, but John never took it personally. He may be having a bad day or maybe a bad life.
Instead of feeling rejected, John chose to feel sorry for these girls and always smiled genuinely and said, “Have a nice day” as he left.
He knew if a girl was just having a bad day, she’d already feel bad for having a wild reaction to him, and if she had a bad life and always acted like that, well, she’d just saved herself a future with someone who probably wasn’t worth it.
John made women feel physically safe with him because he always considered the physical safety factors that women worry about.
Key point!
Women always, albeit unconsciously, think about their physical safety.
But John was also very good at making women feel emotionally safe with him, and that’s why they fell for him.
Emotional Safety
John learned that real keepers, high-value emotionally healthy women, need to feel emotionally secure with a man in order to fall in love with him.
He had learned the hard way after being with some emotionally unhealthy women, damaged ones are the ones who prefer the real bad boys, not the keepers.
So he vowed to be a strong, alpha male without actually being evil.
He made tough decisions, took calculated risks and was always honest even when he knew the girl wouldn’t like his words.
John knew that women respect men who can make decisions and take risks in life.
He knew that women respect men who are direct and honest.
And he knew that respect precedes attraction. No respect, no attraction.
John took small steps to become more alpha-assertive until it became natural.
Then he might say, “I’d like to take you out to dinner. What’s your Number?
He used to go out with a girl and say, “Wear something nice tonight, I’ll take you to a fancy restaurant.”
“If I don’t get the promotion I deserve, I’ll start my own business.”
“Yes, I noticed this scantily clad woman. Any red-blooded would do. No, I wasn’t flirting with her. Why go for mutton when you have steak.’
“No, I’m not a fan of your friend Jane, she’s flattering and makes you feel bad.”
John became a straight shooter because being a people pleaser didn’t make women respect him or feel safe with him.
But he was never crazy. Being a real bad boy only attracts confused throwers!
But it was…
- reliable, but not a doormat.
- careful but not needy.
- free but not thirsty.
- respectful but honest.
- accepting of women’s faults, but willing to hold them accountable.
- encouraging but also pursuing his passions and purpose
So because of these qualities that John developed, women instinctively trusted him.
And if a woman trusts and respects you, she will feel safe with you.
It took courage for John to trust himself enough to walk away from the “very nice people they like” but he did it one step at a time.
And now John is with an amazing girl who meets his high standards and always feels safe with him.
Be like John.
End.
Xo AJ
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