What is late dating? If you get attached to someone quickly, it’s a good idea to slow things down. In this video, you will learn how.
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Slow dating is exactly what it sounds like: people take time to get to know each other and build connection and trust before deciding whether they want to pursue a relationship. Why did this trend emerge? It started with pandemic lockdowns and quarantines where everyone had to slow down and meet a potential date virtually. Many people have seen the benefits and still slow things down so they can have important conversations with matches before they meet. They think more critically about what they want and need in a relationship. Slow dating can lead to deeper and more meaningful connections.
5 Benefits of Late Dating
1. Develop a deeper understanding of the other’s values, beliefs, and compatibility.
2. More authentic connection as you gradually build trust and emotional intimacy rather than jumping into physical intimacy too soon.
3. It helps relieve the pressure and expectations that often come with traditional dating, allowing people to enjoy the process of getting to know each other without the stress of rushing into commitment.
4. It encourages people to focus on quality over quantity when it comes to dating. By investing time and energy into slowly building a connection with one person at a time, people can avoid the temptation to constantly look for the next best thing and instead cultivate a more meaningful relationship with a potential partner.
5. It leads to better communication, increased emotional investment and a stronger bond, ultimately increasing the likelihood of a successful and fulfilling relationship in the long run.
Going on fewer dates and slowing things down can actually help you find love sooner. Limiting your dates or matches makes it easier to focus and look for green or red flags in a potential partner.
5 Basic Rules for Late Dating on Apps
- Focus on the written content of a potential match’s profile, rather than their profile picture.
- Limit the time you spend on dating apps. I recommend spending up to 20 minutes a day on the apps and sending up to two messages a day until you start a few conversations.
- Limit the number of matches you actually talk to on the apps as well as the number of dates you go on. For example, if you’re having quality conversations with three matches, pick the ones you like best and make sure you ask the right questions before your first meeting: anything related to a person’s family, likes and dislikes, religion and philosophies about life are good choices.
- Get to know your match by noticing how actions and words align.
- Remember that the early stages of dating are about discovering a person, not deciding they are the ONE!
Of course slow dating also applies to meeting people in real life, so go out and talk to strangers! Have you ever practiced late dates? Let me know in the comments.
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