Embrace Being the Boss – SheKnows

Now that we’re firmly out of that fun, hyperactive Sagittarius part of winter (is anyone else tired? I’m tired), it’s time to celebrate Capricorn vibes and all they can do for you in your sex life. So get ready and set your sights squarely on the prize. And especially this season, as you reflect and reflect on things you’ve done and things (and people) you want to do, it’s okay to feel a little bossy and in the mood to get what you want.

When is the Capricorn season in 2023?

This year, the Capricorn season runs from December 22, 2023 to January 19, 2024, and we’re looking forward to Mercury retrograde for the first part of it. (RIP.) While Capricorn energy is “about getting things done and focusing on our goals,” Mercury retrograde means that “instead of pushing forward, we’ll focus on revising our overall life strategy.” Narayana Montupharsenior astrologer at Astrology.comsays SheKnows.

Fortunately, we will receive some heavenly help during this time. Between December 21 and December 31, “Jupiter—the planet of luck and optimism—will be very active,” explains Montúfar, which means “we’ll be able to discern what paths of opportunity are available to us.”

Capricorn Traits: Determined to take the road

What you need to know about Capricorns is that they just take things Done. As a Libra, I try to understand the strengths of all signs, their seasons and energies, even those that don’t always make sense to me personally. Decisive and efficient, the world is a to-do list for Capricorns. It’s just like this. A friend of mine dated a Capricorn once he realized he had a broken shower head and showed up one day to replace it. As I saw something that needed to be done, I did it confidently and continued. (I can’t help but love it for them, TBH.)

As we say in all our sex sign tips, each sign works with a different season/planet differently and works differently in your chart! Your personal birth chart (calculated through your birth date, location, and time) contains all kinds of different parts of yourself that make up your particular personality. So be sure to check your sun sign, moon sign, and rising/rising sign (think: your ego, who you are when you’re alone on a deep personal level, and the mask you wear/how others see you), like as well as your other prominent planets for a complete zodiac picture (Mars and Venus are always interesting in the area of ​​sex and relationships!) — and you might benefit from a sit-down with an astrologer to look at your chart and understand how well you play with other signs. It can be a truly special and transformative experience!

Capricorn season sex tip: It’s time to take charge

With what we know about Capricorns — they like to run the show and do whatever/whom they came to do (and most importantly do them Good) – we think it’s a good time to embrace your bossy side or encourage it in your partner. “Capricorn energy is stoic and incredibly focused on doing everything as well as possible, and that includes sex,” says Montúfar. “This is a kind of take-charge action, calling for one person to take the lead and the other to fully surrender!” If you happen to find yourself on the Capricorn to-do list or just want to embrace that energy in bed this season, keep reading.

In the bedroom this can obviously take the form of leaning into kinky power play in one form or another. “If there’s ever a time to try having sex while tied up, it’s now during Capricorn season,” says Montúfar. “It allows for a fully surrendered, take-charge dynamic, satisfying the ambitious and authoritarian atmosphere of the season. Trading spaces are recommended for both parties to feel the sense of empowerment this can bring!”

Embracing your dominant side (or submissive side) can also teach you a lot about the things that excite you and make you feel valued and cared for. Maybe try setting a rule or two for the meeting, introducing some constraints, or just putting the planning firmly in one hand (and head) for the day. (Don’t underestimate how hot a creative, thorough and well-executed design can be, guys!)

Montúfar also recommends positions like sitting face-to-face to deepen your connection and embrace the open energy of the Capricorn season. This position “prepares us to look into each other’s eyes, helping us warm things up and better read what the other person is feeling and enjoying,” she explains.

You can also try exciting positions like hot seat (the penetrating partner lies with their feet and legs off the bed and the receiving partner sits on top) or desk dominance, where the penetrating partner stands and the receiving partner lying on a desk or table. The hot seat “allows the receiving partner to be in control of the depth, angle and rate of penetration,” Montúfar explains, while desk dominance “allows the receiver to surrender fully, leaving the giver fully in charge!”

There are also two dates to be aware of this season. The first is on January 12, when Jupiter magnifies the energy of Mars, the planet of sex and drive. “Plan a hot date,” suggests Montúfar. “Tonight, our stamina is at its peak, so make use of it!”

Then, between January 14 and January 19, Pluto — known as “one of the kinkiest planets,” Montúfar says — will be “incredibly active.” She explains, “Pluto’s penetrating energy gives us x-ray vision, allowing us to understand the truest and deepest desires of the other person. This will be a time when many of us will be pushing our limits in bed as our need to connect on a deeper level will be present and almost insatiable. Think long, slow and deep strokes as well as makeup sessions!”

Capricorns are all about taking charge, so support that energy in whatever way resonates with you. If that means stepping up and introducing some power play into your sex life, go for it. If that means initiating sex or showing your partner that they’re a priority for you, that’s great too. (Knowing that your partner is prioritizing your time is incredibly sexy, after all.) If you embody Capricorn energy, moving purposefully and confidently toward your goal (pleasure for yourself and your partner), you’ll find that there is something undeniably hot about that determination.

A version of this post was originally published in 2021.

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