You may think you’re compatible and on the same page with a new partner and what you want as a couple, but it takes a lot of hard conversations to make sure that’s the reality.
One of the reasons why dating is so important is because it’s when you invest your time and energy into meeting a potential partner who is on a similar page as you. Some men and women settle all their needs quickly and have high expectations of what they are looking for in a committed relationship. Some people don’t have enough boundaries and end up in repetitive patterns that don’t work. There is a happy medium, and it’s as simple as learning how to listen to your gut and communicate openly with someone you care about.
Pay very close attention to how the relationship develops in the first 3 months. Do you get along healthily, bringing you closer together because you have a lot in common? Or, are you starting to realize that as a couple you are quite different in many aspects of your life? Having some conflicting views or interests is acceptable, but your future goals should be on a similar path for your relationship to move forward and stand the test of time.
It’s one thing to have great chemistry in the bedroom, but if your aspirations, morals, and values don’t align, it’s going to be hard to sustain a long-term partnership.
As a couple, not having common ground outside of your home often pulls you in different directions and ultimately changes the once harmonious home-life dynamic between you. Having a few separate outside interests is healthy, but you should be able to stay connected by including each other in your endeavors every now and then. You should at least discuss things so they feel a part of it, understand what’s going on and can appreciate your enthusiasm. Just because they aren’t involved in your outside activities doesn’t mean they aren’t interested in them.
The importance of early discussion of future plans in a new partnership.
When you sit down and talk about the goals you both want to achieve in life, are there any commonalities? Are you on a similar page? It is so important to really listen what each other says, so there are no big surprises down the road.
- Do they want a committed relationship and marriage?
- Are you both sexually attracted to each other and on a similar page when it comes to intimacy?
- Do you agree on wanting to have a family or do you both agree on not having children?
- Where do you want to live? This can cause a lot of problems if you both want to live in different cities.
- Are you satisfied with your career, or do either of you have long-term university or future business goals that will require a lot of time and compromise?
- Do you like each other’s friends and family and are you both openly accepting of them?
- How well do you communicate as a couple? Do you have a similar style?
- What are your instincts telling you? Do you ever feel anxious or doubt that you are with them?
- Do you trust them and feel safe with them for the most part?
- Are there some warning signs about some of the differences you both want for your future as a couple?
- Are you compatible when it comes to your biggest priorities inside and outside of your partnership?
Each of these 11 points listed above is important to have discussed as a couple. Many of them may be negotiators, so it is imperative that you communicate this to each other so you know where you stand. Leaving these conversations out of the mix will cause a lot of problems in the months and years to come because of how important it is to be equally engaged in your partnership.
People change over the years, so it’s important to stay openly connected with your partner!
Being aware of the other person’s feelings as your relationship progresses should always be a priority. If you know you share your opinions and concerns, no one is left trying to figure out what the other person is thinking. It’s better to be honest if you’re feeling disconnected because it gives you both a chance to make things right.
Couples often make the mistake of thinking that things will fix themselves and before they know it, their partner is gone from the relationship. It’s definitely not a good situation to be blinded like this. If you stay on a similar course and truly respect each other, you have a good chance of having a successful, committed partnership.
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