Clearing out the old and making way for the new when you break up
Divorce means the end of the marriage, as well as making decisions as a couple. This is
terrain that is usually difficult to navigate. Now you are on your own, and with that comes freedom
of choice and opportunity to decide for yourself the things you want to do and what
you want to get Once you start thinking in those terms, there’s so much to cover that you don’t
you often consider the fact that your jewelry, especially your engagement ring, wedding band, and
other pieces you acquired during your marriage contribute to this whole equation. So while this
it can seem small next to so many of the other looming issues, believe it or not
What to do with these precious objects—the markers of your time together—can be extremely difficult.
The important thing is that you are making a fresh start, a fresh start. With that in mind, you
may start thinking about your transformation and your jewelry being an aspect of that, to reflect
the new you and symbolize your newfound autonomy. You can tap into your independence –
literally – from the point at which you decide to stop wearing the wedding band and/or
choose to leave it completely and sell it, because maybe it wasn’t what you would have had
you initially chose or it wasn’t the ring you always hoped for, and now you no longer have to feel
stuck wearing it.
Getting into this mindset can be difficult and may take some effort. You can feel like
you are in a whirlwind of emotions: insecurity, self-blame and self-doubt that you did wrong
choice of marriage in the beginning, or that you stayed too long, and how you can trust yourself
make a good decision in the future? All this can also lead to a loss of self-esteem. Which may
you hinder decision-making, including those surrounding your valuables. You
you want to keep a certain piece for your children, for example, or remove it from your life
completely? Are you ready to take off the wedding band you’ve had for decades? These are
all the small steps towards your new life. As hard as it is, keep in mind that with every choice
it makes you move further away from the unhappiness and stress you were living, and
it can now begin to shape your new identity in the future.
Instead of letting the pieces you no longer wear gather dust sitting there, think of it like
a chance to turn them into something different that can make a statement about your new you
style. A wedding band can become a beautiful watch that says now you can have his time
your life and the fun that comes with it. By working with your jewelry, you can release any negativity
feelings that objects can bring. And now is as good a time as any to deal with any guilt
get into the game for you by giving yourself permission to have things that make you feel
good, and you will enjoy it. Maybe you’ve always expected to receive jewelry as a gift because
you felt you needed your husband’s approval first or you didn’t feel comfortable buying it
the same. This no longer has to be the case, because now you are in charge.
Instead of holding on to specific items for sentimentality, which can keep you stuck
the negative feelings associated with them, now is the chance to get rid of the pieces you never have
would have chosen, or would not want to start with, and will replace them with something that is just
what do you want. A big ticket item can be made small enough that it can be just like yours
emotional vitamins. When you wear them, they make you feel better and keep you feeling
positive. In this new stage of life, it is important to have self-esteem. And what better to say
It’s worth it to treat yourself to jewelry because you deserve it.
While this is a smaller decision than some of the big ones you’ve faced, it can
become an opportunity to build your confidence knowing that you can define who you are
through self-expression, secure for yourself what you desire and begin to trust your own
crisis again. With this new exercise of personal freedom comes a new beginning that will increase
your confidence and will help you feel good about yourself.
One of the biggest losses you go through is that of identity. you go from
being part of a couple and “we”, being solo alone as “me”. Make this his loss
“we” in a profit for “me” and with your new individuality we have something exciting to show
for this. Now is the time to reinvent yourself and shine. Cleaning your tracks
in the past you make room for a new and brighter future.
