Today’s topic is a popular topic that I have often discussed with clients. Can single men and women be satisfied without a partner?
Many people are fed up and beyond frustrated with the hassles of gift giving. This brings up uncomfortable feelings that range from sadness to anger and confusion about how to live their lives without a romantic partner. In response to today’s question; yes, you can absolutely be content to be single and have a very fulfilling life!
Being in a partnership doesn’t define you. Of course, having love in your life is very important, but it can come in many other forms, such as close friends, your family, and your pets. Some people have a platonic companionship or an intimate one friends with benefits scenario which they enjoy in mutual acceptance.
Not everyone needs to be in an exclusive, committed relationship.
When you have an interesting single life that keeps you busy and satisfied, you can be very happy in that existence. I know many single women who have travel partners and plan annual adventures together. Every year they go somewhere new, and they always have something to look forward to on the calendar.
If you don’t have a travel buddy, there are individual vacation packages available in many cities around the world. There are also individual cruises, medical clubs and individual tour groups. Being single has so many more options than ever before. Continuing to grow and check off the goals on your list will keep you too engaged in life to miss out on being in a committed relationship.
Being free and independent isn’t for everyone, but it sure can be an exciting environment when you surround yourself with other like-minded people who are also free and adventurous. If you look back at your past relationships, there’s a reason they didn’t work out. You may end up partnering with someone who isn’t right for you, which can leave you feeling lonely and stuck. It is always a better choice to be happy and single than to be unhappy and living with a partner.
IIf you’re not happy being single, it’s important to know who you are first before entering into a partnership.
Taking time out from dating or being in an unsatisfying relationship will give you more clarity as to what you’re looking for in a potential partner. This is often the time when many men and women end up meeting their special someone! If you don’t put out negative energy, you are more available and welcome to receive love in your life. You may not know that in the past you have been sending out the wrong vibes and that is what has prevented you from meeting a compatible partner.
Some of my clients didn’t realize they were bitter and rejected by their dating experiences that continued to not work out. This shows up very quickly when you meet someone new. Even if you don’t voice your frustrations, your body language and self-esteem issues can speak volumes.
The important thing to remember is that you are a whole person whether you are single or in a relationship.
Be careful not to become jaded and make personal judgments that prevent you from moving forward in finding the love you desire. We can be our own worst enemy sometimes. Change your thought process and start repeating positive mantras throughout the day. “I am satisfied and proud of what I have become! I am ready and available to meet my life partner who is an extension of who I already am.”
The most important part of this practice is that you must believe that you are truly open and worthy of a committed partnership. Even you think about the lack of love in your lifeit will continue to bring you more of the same negative energy.
People who understand this and learn from difficult dating/relationship scenarios are the ones who continue to believe they deserve to be in a healthy relationship when the time is right. This is the magic key! Believe in yourself and open your heart to let love in!
OK, so I’ve decided that for now I’m going to embrace being single. How can I learn to be content with a single life?
- When you’re single, you can make plans whenever you want and you don’t have to answer to anyone. The trick is to say yes to every opportunity that comes your way.
- The more adventure and fun you have in your life, the happier you are as your authentic self. This attracts more people to you because your energy is contagious.
- Stop worrying about people judging you because you’re NOT in a relationship. Some couples are not in a happy relationship and are jealous that you are free to live your life as you like. Try not to spend any time with people who make comments about your property status. I can promise you, these people are not happy in their lives.
- Spend time with your couple-friends. You are not the fifth wheel and you bring as much to the table as a single person as someone in a relationship.
- You may not be completely okay with being single right now, but having a great attitude and cheerful confidence is key to being single. Having a personal presence is very attractive!
- Surround yourself with positive people who are also happy to be single. If there are negative conversations, remove yourself from the environment.
- Change your environment regularly so that changes are always happening in your life. You often leave the house.
You are responsible for who you let into your life, and you are also responsible for what prevents you from getting what you want.
I enjoyed spending time as a single woman and also enjoyed time in committed partnerships. I made a lot of mistakes, but I was very careful not to repeat unhealthy patterns. Furthermore, I took responsibility for the choices I made because I am ultimately responsible for who I allow into my world. Life lessons are very valuable and their messages should not be ignored.
Some men and women feel restricted when they are in a relationship and are happier when they are single. Others feel judged for not being in a partnership, which makes them feel even more pressured. It’s nobody’s business how you choose to live your life, but sometimes it’s best not to give away too much information. You have a right to your privacy, so choose wisely who you share it with.
The bottom line is, don’t sell yourself too hard by listening to other people, for your own instincts, you know what’s best for you, and part of moving forward healthily is forgiving yourself for situations that didn’t work out in the past. We all make mistakes in our lives, but being grateful for those experiences and appreciating them will always help you continue your journey on a better path.
Go for what you want in life and put energy into doing what makes you truly happy.
If you’re more content being independent and free, that’s where you should be. If you enjoy being in a partnership, take the time to meet your special someone so there is no dependency and no questions. You’ll get a much clearer picture of who someone really is when you slow down and really get to know them. Mistakes are made when you jump in headfirst without paying attention. The sexual chemistry will get you every time!
It’s also important to spend time with friends and do some things on your own. You have to figure out how to be comfortable in your own skin without the dependency of always having to be surrounded by other people.
No matter what situation you are in right now, put your energy into accepting where you are with optimism. Being single and in a relationship both have their strengths, so enjoy each phase of your life as it unfolds. If you continue to appreciate the path you are currently on, you will always be rewarded with happiness. Having a positive mindset is the key to achieving what you desire in life.
Thanks, Sybersue xo <3
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