Are Dating Coach Bootcams Worth It? • Absolute Ability

In 2023 I removed Infield training or bootcamps from my training products.

Why; Well, being 45 years old, and after teaching hundreds of infield bootcamps, I’m a little sick of it. But I also realized that I can get the same, if not better, results for clients through long-term coaching – through weekly calls.

Since then, I have contacted about a dozen men for training in their cities. Some of them were adamant that I fly around the world to personally teach them how to approach women. Some of them were willing to pay up to $10,000 for a weekend. Unreasonable!

“I have retired from the infield.” I would say. “But I’m training remotely. We can talk via video chat, once a week, with weekly assignments, homework, suggested reading, guided meditation, personalized strategy and full texting support…”

A lot of people hesitate and then say, “Nah, I want a bootcamp in the field. Thank you SO MUCH.” They then go off to find some overpriced coach they’ve put in their imaginations.

Since then, I’ve converted a few men to distance training and all of them have made incredible progress, not just in getting more girls, but in every aspect of their lives.

While I believe a good approach coach can help get a guy started, there are some major limitations to field training.

Limitations of Dating Bootcamps

Let me tell you why you don’t need a bootcamp.

1. They are very expensive.

I know some coaches who charge $3400 or more per weekend in their cities. This is absolutely absurd. To be honest, even $2ka on the weekend is Very much.

I often joked on day 1 of my bootcamps, “Congratulations everyone, you just paid me thousands of dollars to give you permission to talk to women.”

I do exactly the same with Zoom. And if they struggle to get started, I mentally coach them and hold them accountable until they go out and try on their own, which they always do 80% of the time.

But, if that doesn’t work, I help them find a wingman, and this technique works 100% of the time.

You don’t need an Infield PUA Bootcamp

You do NOT need a bootcamp. You need a partner or someone to hold you accountable. This is. If you feel like you have to “watch” it, there are literally hundreds of gameplay videos on Youtube.

But maybe you just want someone to call you a cunt?

If you absolutely feel you need a trainer in the field, hire some local kid for $500. You will get the same product. Picking up is not complicated… YOU make it complicated.

The $500 coach will tell you to stand up and say, “Go talk to her.” Then he will watch you from a distance or give you motivational speeches when you go out. If it’s really advanced, it will listen to you via a bluetooth mic, which I can do with live video streaming if necessary.

When you’ve completed your approach, you’ll come back to discuss it. I can do this on the phone, or you can record your approaches with a lapel mic, we can listen to it together and discuss it.

All of these can also be obtained for free with a good wingman. Or at least, a winger and a great coach, like me.

2. You don’t learn as much.

After your bootcamp, your biggest realization will be, “Wow, this isn’t that hard. Could I have done it myself because I paid $3400?”

That’s right, $3400 for a standard two-day bootcamp, or $800 for a month-long remote coaching program with yours truly, a dude with fifteen years of experience coaching guys to get more and hotter girls.

For $3400, you could have 4 months of 1-on-1 private coaching (at the time of this post in December 2023).

That’s over sixteen hours, over a quarter of a year, plus full texting support – meaning you can text me whenever you want – with any questions. Once your bootcamp is over, that coach is gone, with your money.

Bootcamps only give you permission to approach girls

In my remote coaching, I often have men approach women while I coach them live via Zoom or WhatsApp. It’s like I’m there anyway. “Go talk to her,” I say.

If you think you’ll learn more by watching your coach, you won’t. All you will see is a guy talking to girls, making them laugh, getting their phone numbers or kissing them, etc. All of these can be viewed on YouTube for free.

I remember watching all the RSD Hotseat videos and being like, “This is it? That’s what I did!”

3. You will lose motivation after bootcamp

It happens to every man. If they aren’t inspired to try before bootcamp, they won’t be inspired after bootcamp.

This is because they have no support system.

Remote Coaching puts you in charge

Remote coaching means you always have me there, to talk weekly or daily via text, hold you accountable, motivate, train, hypnotize, teach and more.

Once a bootcamp is over, you’ll be back on your own without any support or any experts to answer your questions. You’re back in your Telegram group and talking to other guys who don’t know how to squat.

4. Bootcamps are shallow

All you learn in a bootcamp is how to approach women. And not that deep.

This is like a sales training program that charges you $3400 to pick up the phone or send an email.

Granted, if you do nighttime, bars and parties, it’s harder to learn on your own than daygame. But then again, you don’t learn that much. You just get permission to try.

After the program, you will return on your own. And you will be left with many unanswered questions such as:

• How do you overcome approach anxiety for good?
• What books and videos should you be reading?
• You suffer from mild depression due to lack of results. How do you deal with this?
• Got a bunch of phone numbers, what should you send?
• You have a date, what are you doing?
• You’re still bad at talking. How do you learn the art of wordplay? How do you practice?
• You still have a ton of limiting beliefs, fear of death, and scarcity mentality. How do you fix this?
• Women flake on you. How do you deal with this?

It goes on, and on.

Even if your bootcamp has a six-hour seminar before the program, you’ll forget all about it. You can also purchase a course for home study.

A two day bootcamp won’t help with any of this. A multi-month remote training program will.

Remote training goes deep, bootcamps run shallow.

Remote Coaching is superior to Bootcamps for long-term growth

I have had students recruit more month after month, for over a year. Their growth was tremendous.

I’ve had students go from not getting laid for years, sleeping with five women a month (that’s a lot for most normal dudes.)

While I will never regret my time teaching bootcamps, I can safely say that my 1-on-1 online coaching is just as, if not more, effective.

This material is a long-term process and should justify a long-term investment.

If you want to invest in your long-term self-development, just get a free consultation here.

I’ll answer any questions you have and won’t pressure you into buying.

Until then, pick up your phone and go meet more women.