So let’s say you’re in a bar or even on the street and you see a girl you really want to approach. But she has a friend with her. What do you do in this situation and how can you seduce her?
Approaching girls who are with friends is extremely intimidating for most guys. So I get this question a lot: How do you approach a girl with a boyfriend by her side?
The answer is quite simple but definitely not easy: You deal with both and focus on the boyfriend more than the girl you want.
Let me explain how this works in great detail. This way you will be able to approach women who have their girlfriends by their side much more successfully.
How to approach a girl who has a boyfriend by her side
First of all, a woman’s friends are important. And a woman’s best friend is one of the most important people in her life. Because her best friend has to sign off on ALL major relationship decisions.
You obviously won’t know if the girl your target is with is her best friend or not without asking. Which you can and should do, given the opportunity. However, you should treat her as if she were your target’s best friend. You treat her with dignity, respect and make sure she has a good time in your presence.
This is because once you win her over and then walk away – if she thinks you’re a great guy, she’ll do most of the seducing for you. When you leave the conversation, they will talk about you and how you made them feel.
If you made her friend feel great, she will be like your cheer-leader and advertise you to her friend that you are interested. That’s how powerful and important best friends are, so you can’t afford to lose it.
So how should you approach women who have a boyfriend by their side?
You don’t expect eye contact from either of them to “gauge their interest” because that’s completely irrelevant. You don’t need permission to talk to them. What you do is just walk up to them and talk to both of them at the same time, but focus on the friend.
More details on approaching girls who are with friends just below.
Make it known who you’re interested in, but focus on the friend
Obviously, if you are a great seducer and have great game, you can go for a threesome. But this is very difficult for most children to do.
So, from the beginning, making your goal clear will greatly increase your chances of success.
Once you’ve decided which girl you’re interested in, start giving her a harder time than the other. He flirted with her, but also focus on teasing hercalling her on things, challenging her in playful ways.
However, when dealing with her friend, be super friendly with her, show good manners, call her “pretty” and various similar safe descriptive words. So she gets the right idea.
This difference in the way you speak to them, this difference in dynamics will make your goal known to both of you. Which will make things much easier and less ambiguous.
Then use their close relationship to your advantage to gain traction with the girl you’re interested in. You can flirt with her this way and playfully tease her about various things you learn about her from her friend.
A great way to do this and win the girlfriend over at the same time so she doesn’t think you’re being rude is to talk to the girlfriend directly.
You can say things like “You seem like great friends, I have to ask, is she always this stupid or is she just around guys she really likes?”
Or things like “Does she always look at men like this? I don’t know if I should be scared or turned on! He’s like a piece of meat and he’s hungry!’ Playfully tease your target and endear yourself to the friend.
Playful and observant statements and questions will make the interaction very memorable for everyone.
If you isolate the friend, things will not go well
If you’re approaching women during the day, isolating her friend or ignoring her won’t go over well.
Sure, it might seem like she’s okay with it and doesn’t mind that you’re ignoring her. The girl you’re interested in might even like you a lot and start ignoring her friend too. But once you leave, her friend will make sure you don’t go anywhere near her again.
He’ll start telling your target how you don’t seem like a good guy. He will tell her every little detail he noticed about you that is bad or wrong. And she’ll badmouth you every chance she gets, especially if you’ve been rude to her.
Moreover, pawning her off to one of your friends is also not an ideal alternative. Although it is possible and preferable in some cases.
This is because if you isolate them completely, your target’s friend won’t know anything about you. He won’t be able to see what a great guy you are, he won’t have the chance to connect and feel with you. Which means she won’t act as your cheerleader when you hang out later.
Just remember, this is more for day play and not night play.
During the night game in bars and clubs, when you approach a girl who has a boyfriend next to her, it is often best to pawn her on a wing. If they are both out to relax and have fun that night.
But during the day, connecting with both is the name of the game, so don’t forget that.
Also, if you focus more on your target and don’t talk to her friend as much, she will start to get bored. And if he gets fed up enough, he’ll do whatever it takes to derail your interaction with the girl you’re interested in.
People will tell you that approaching girls who are with friends is hopeless
The fact is that most men who are not successful with women and who do not have much experience will tell you to go ahead in this situation. They think approaching women who are with friends is a fool’s errand. Because it allegedly makes things very difficult.
But in reality it is not so. In fact, if you know what you’re doing, it becomes easier to seduce the girl you want if she has a boyfriend with her.
This is because it is very easy to show off your personality by engaging with her friend. You can easily consider her as one of your friends. Which makes it very easy to have fun, shoot the shit, engage in playful banter and cheer everyone up.
And like I said before, once you do that, her friend will become like your cheerleader and make things a lot easier.
When you oneapproach a random woman on the street who is alone, will often have her guard.
In bars and clubs it’s different because most women go there alone to find someone to hook up with. But when you get cold approaching on the street or outside clubs and bars, you will see that women are protected by strangers.
That’s why it’s much easier to approach two or three women who are friends. Because everyone will feel much safer with your presence. They will open up easier and let down and trust you much faster. So use this to your advantage when learning how to approach a girl with a boyfriend.
Also, many guys will suggest you have a wingman to talk to the friend. But that just brings more unnecessary chaos if it’s a guy you don’t go out with often and you know is legit.
Final thoughts on how to approach a woman who has a boyfriend with her
I’m glad you want to learn the art of approaching girls who are with a girlfriend. Men rarely do this and even more rarely do it well. So the fact that you approach a couple of girls or even three is impressive.
Whether your approach bombs or succeeds, you’ll be respected for having the balls to do it. Because we all know the cold approach is hard. And we all fear rejection to some degree.
If you are someone who fears rejection and has a hard time with it, I highly recommend reading my post on overcoming the fear of rejection.
Once you deal with approach anxiety, a whole new world will open up before you.
The thing about bars and clubs is that women rarely go out there alone. Most of the time they are with at least one friend. But often in a group of friends or acquaintances.
That’s why it’s so important to learn how to approach a woman in a group of friends or where she’s with a friend. Because this is the situation you will face the most when you are cold approaching and seducing girls.
Just remember to befriend your target’s friends and things will be much easier for you.
Good luck!
