Thank you for visiting me here at Dear Sybersue! What else does it mean to add mystery to a partnership? How is it possible to do this if you have been together for a long time as a couple?
Being spontaneous with your partner adds excitement when planning something you don’t often do together.
Many couples complain about how routine and boring things become in their relationship over the years. In fact, it’s one of the biggest problems as to why many relationships begin to fizzle out. The best way to combat this issue in your partnership is to be adventurous and take turns planning something interesting to do outside of your normal comfort zone.
Adding a bit of fun and mystery to your partnership kicks things up a notch and adds a freshness to your relationship. The great thing about it is that it always gives you something to look forward to. Marking a mystery date night on the calendar every few weeks constantly adds a new perspective to your partnership.
When you both make an effort to cultivate romance in your relationship, it keeps the fires burning between you as a couple.
When you don’t let things get stale or mundane, you understand the importance of prioritizing your love above all else. This is time dedicated to the two of you, without the distraction of home, work or child responsibilities. Your kids don’t have to be involved in everything you do. Some couples forget this and their relationship steadily takes a back seat.
Your children learn how to be much more independent when you are not around them 24/7. They also witness, first hand, what it’s like to have a mutual love relationship. You teach them this by your actions and you both set a great example for them to have in their own partnership in the future. Children are like sponges and pick up everything from an early age!
Many people have rigid schedules that they feel the need to prioritize.
There’s no rulebook here, but unfortunately, living this rigid lifestyle gets so many couples into trouble. Their relationship takes on a routine and somewhat boring existence, leaving them with less to talk about. Being creatures of habit is a big relationship issue and disables the romantic connection from developing on a deeper level. There is no spontaneity!
Leave the housework for another day. Don’t spend the whole weekend doing housework! If you do a little each day, it opens up much-needed time to have fun in your relationship. Recruit some young people in the neighborhood to help with the little things around the house every now and then. They could help with yard work, mowing the lawn, or entertaining the kids for a few hours. It’s worth the few dollars to make more time for romance in your partnership.
Don’t always be predictable, especially in the bedroom!
This is another contentious problem in many partnerships. I’ve talked to couples who tell me their sex life is very limited and repetitive or non-existent. I can’t stress enough the importance of maintaining intimacy in your partnership, no matter how many years you’ve been together as a couple!
Abstaining from sex is not healthy for any relationship to grow in a positive direction. Unless there is a medical scenario, sexual intimacy should always be a priority between you and your partner.
If you’re not sure how to improve your sex life, here are some suggestions to implement in your cooperation.
- Change the location where you make love and what time. The bedroom gets old after a while and many couples are too tired to be sexually active before bed. Afternoon Delight is a great option on weekends! Or, if possible, take an afternoon off work for a spontaneous date.
- Plan a surprise overnight stay at a local hotel. (Have a bag ready for your partner.)
- Organize a romantic dinner at home and seduce your partner with sexy foreplay. Throw a blanket on the living room floor and let go of your inhibitions!
- Always try to look nice for each other. Putting energy into keeping your partner attractive to you and vice versa will keep you both in the mood for love.
- Don’t be shy, try a little RPG to spice things up! (Playing doctor isn’t just for kids! 😉)
Communication is so important when it comes to sex and intimacy in your relationship. This is a conversation that needs to be recognized and resolved before one person in the relationship feels lonely and sexually unfulfilled. A compromise can be made that works for both of you, but you need to be on the same page with understanding the importance of cultivating romance in your partnership.
One of the big reasons sex can become rare is because of the lack of excitement that often comes from being together for so long. When something becomes predictable, there is no mystery, there is very little spontaneity, and there is a routine that rarely changes. People get lethargic and forget how to spice things up in the bedroom.
When this continues on a regular basis, it eventually numbs the sensual intimacy you once shared. You literally forget what it was like! This is why I emphasize the importance of staying romantically connected by switching things up to add constant freshness to your partnership.
Being a little mysterious and spontaneous in your relationship doesn’t have to cost a lot of money. It just takes a little creativity.
It’s a great feeling to come home to a partner who isn’t afraid to make a few changes and likes to keep things spicy. When you practice it regularly in a mutual way, you don’t have time to get bored because you’re both so excited to see what your partner is going to sneak out next.
It could be something as simple as organizing a candlelit picnic in the park or asking your partner to meet you at a secret location where you were planning a romantic evening. You can also do a twilight hike and bring a bottle of wine to share in your backpack.
It’s also great to act to be a kid again. Always having to be an adult is annoying! Having fun and being playfully naughty not only keeps you young-spirited, but maintains a closeness between you when you’re on the same page in your partnership. As I have said in other posts, “couples who play together, stay together.When you are able to be spontaneous together, you have such a great chance of continuing to have a great relationship.
Being able to learn new things and laugh with your partner also fosters romance between you. When you’re having fun with each other, it keeps the intimacy alive! Many couples in long-term relationships complain how difficult it is to keep the romance passionate and exciting. When you take time as a couple to remove the monotonous routine, it will continue to keep things light and flirty.
You don’t have to spend a lot of money to be creative and add some intrigue to your partnership. A little imagination and understanding what makes your partner happy is all you need. It may seem like a lot of work to keep the love going in a relationship, but when you understand the importance of putting in the energy, the continued longevity of your relationship will be proof that it was worth it.
Thanks, Sybersue xo <3
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