Today’s topic can be difficult because you may not even know that you are trapped in this scenario. The difference between wanting and needing a relationship.
It’s important to be in a partnership for the right reasons and to be on the same page for the most part. When you I want to become in a relationship, you are ready to have a supportive, loving, intimate partnership that is healthy and mutual. that is needed Being in a relationship is often driven by insecurities and depending on someone else to feel safe and accepted.
Some people don’t feel like they are a whole person unless they share their life with a partner. They don’t like to be alone.
When you have a full life, you are confident and feel good about who you are.
When you learn how to be very comfortable and at peace with who you are, then you can be free to open your heart to someone. This is not an easy process for some men and women, but it can be achieved when you take the time to do the work to remove self-doubt and insecurities. This is a much healthier way to meet a potential partner than when you’re feeling lonely, sad, or rejected from a previous breakup.
The best time to meet your special someone to share your life with is when you are independent and happy. Your partner should be an extension of who you already are, and vice versa. You should compliment each other as a couple. In other words, you don’t rely on each other to feel complete! You they want us to be together because you equally bring more to each other’s lives. It’s the cherry on top of what you both have already created separately.
The need to be with someone can cause you to compromise on a partner and could cause you to choose someone who is not healthy for you.
When you need to always be in a relationship, you may not realize what you are sacrificing to be there. Many people go from one relationship to another without taking the time to heal their hearts or think about what happened in each broken partnership. One of the most valuable lessons in life is learning from your mistakes and moving on to a better path without repeating unhealthy patterns.
Unfortunately, some people take too long to understand the importance of this and continue to be in unfulfilling relationships. It can also make your partner unfulfilled as well because they undergo less change by only taking part of you that is available. Your dependence can make them feel suffocated at times.
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Holding onto someone because of personal insecurities will not bring you the great love you truly desire.
When you decide to be with someone to make yourself feel better and less alone, you may end up feeling even more alone, you’re in the wrong partnership. Unfortunately, this can be a difficult pattern to break because you’d rather be with someone (even if it’s an unhappy situation) than be single and live alone. This reduces your happiness because you repeatedly allow yourself to be in this loveless environment.
If this scenario happens to you regularly, it’s time to walk away from any relationship and talk to a counselor who can help you figure out why this keeps happening. There may be some deep-seated self-doubt that keeps you in a position of need. You deserve to be happy and have the love you desire, but you shouldn’t sacrifice your needs because you depend on cooperation.
It is so important to learn how to be content on your own and also understand what it means to share a two-way partnership in love.
Respecting yourself as a priority will give you the confidence to meet a potential partner. It’s important to be emotionally available and independently mature enough to connect with a like-minded person who wants the same things. You have to love yourself first before you can love your partner back. It’s not your partner’s job to make you feel complete.
When you understand that it is very imperative that you do the work on yourself, then you will be able to give reciprocating love to your relationship. Balance is vital for love to survive over the years.
Sybersue xo
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