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It’s that time of year again! Festive events, office parties, gatherings, Christmas Eve, Christmasand New Year celebrations.
And let’s not forget the northern hemisphere—those who are cold and looking for a cuffed mate.
All in all, dating during the holidays is tough. Especially when it’s a first date or the beginning of a new relationship. It’s basically a whole new set of rules that apply during this time.
Tiresome, yes! But, if you follow some of our dating tips over the festive season, you might make it into the new year slightly unscathed!
To have them elusive butterflies in your stomach? Not sure how to approach your new bae during this joyous and eventful time of year? Do not worry…
1. Giving gifts
If it’s a new relationship, you’re probably not sure if you should get the new person in your life Christmas gift. And if you’re into gift giving, what should you get for them? Something grand and romantic? Or a small sample of your worship?
Well, the best advice would be to actually talk to them about it. If you’re not really in the mood to have a serious conversation about gifts, try to make it more casual. Minimum “So, are we exchanging presents for Christmas?’ could be enough.
But equally, maybe add something along the lines of how much you both plan to spend, just so there aren’t any inconsistencies.
Another idea is to go shopping together and get something for each other. That way, you know everyone involved will love their gift.
2. Celebrations & Parties
If you and your new partner have mutual friends, this will be much easier, as you will most likely be invited to the same party or parties.
But what about work events? You know how some office workers love to gossip! Do you take your new person with you on these kinds of celebrations?
Well, you just have to be brave enough to actually talk about it. And when you do, it’s best to define where you are. If it is a casual dating It would be great for both partners to know in advance so they don’t assume anything.
Family events are, of course, much more intense than a simple get-together with friends or work group. If you feel like the relationship you’re in has a future and you’re both comfortable with this kind of thing, then you can totally invite them out.
You might want to let your family know in advance that it’s new, just to avoid any embarrassing or awkward questions.
Clothing for events and parties
If you have decided that you and your partner will indeed go to each other’s functions or parties, think about your outfit.
If you are going to work or to their family event, it might not be the best time to show off your most revealing and/or trendy outfit. Conservative and celebratory should be a win! Consider a classic and timeless look.
There will be many more occasions, with or without your new partner, to wear your super sexy outfit.
3. Intimacy
The honeymoon phase of a relationship is great, mostly because it’s full sex!
But when the holiday season approaches, people are busy. Year-end work deadlines, events, etc. You don’t want to lose the sexual spark too soon, do you? We suggest making time for intimacy.
Make sure you schedule a date or two ahead of time so you can enjoy each other’s company… and de-stress.
Aside from sex, having an intimate date or two just to be with each other is a really fantastic way to get to know them better and connect.
It could even cause a more meaningful relationship to develop.
4. Getting back at your ex
Many people tend to think at the end of the year. They may realize that they actually feel quite alone and may seek comfort somewhere familiar…like in the arms of an ex.
This is very often a bad idea! Before you dive in and start texting your ex, ask yourself two questions: do you have the reasons or circumstances that led to it break up changed; And would meeting them lead you to fall into “short term gain, long term pain”?
The answers to these can help you decide if temporary company is worth it.
5. The Holidays Spent Apart
If you’ve decided that you’re not going to celebrate and party together, maybe a little chat about it is a good idea.
For example, deciding if you’re officially dating, if you’re in one free relationshipor if this is just a fling and both can do whatever they want.
There’s nothing more heartbreaking than finding out that a new interest was intimate with someone else during the Christmas season when you had your sights set on it.
6. New Year’s Date
Wondering if your new love will ask you out on New Year’s Eve? Well, the general rule is that if they haven’t asked you by Christmas, the chances of them doing so are slim.
Most people design their own New Years Eve holidays a week or more earlier, so Christmas is a good target to think about.
If you haven’t heard from them about vacationing together, or asked them, then you should probably go ahead and make your own plans.
Ready for the holiday season with or without a new partner? We recommend that you think twice before you go ahead and invite or accept holiday invitations.
And if you do, a casual chat about things might just be the magic that brings you closer in the new year. I wish you many holidays!
