Notes from the video:
Dating can be a tricky game and sometimes, it’s not easy to spot the players among the genuine people looking for love and commitment. When a man is playing you, he is intentionally giving you a false sense of his intentions to fulfill his own needs while ignoring yours. More often than not, these intentions revolve around physical intimacy. In this blog post, we’ll explore nine signs that can help you recognize when a guy is playing you so you can protect yourself and your feelings.
#1. Last minute plans
If a guy is constantly making last-minute plans with you and mentions a busy work schedule or other commitments, it could be a sign that he’s playing you. These players often avoid making specific plans in advance because they prioritize their convenience over your feelings and needs.
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#2. Excuses and maybes
Players often keep multiple options open, as 24-year-old Adam did. They may say they’re “working on themselves” or claim they’re not ready for a serious relationship, but they want to keep seeing you. Don’t fall for these excuses. History tends to repeat itself, and if he’s not ready now, he probably won’t be in the future.
#3. But, but, but
If he constantly uses phrases like “I miss you but” or “I care so much about you but,” it’s time to be careful. These “buts” often signal manipulation or insincerity. Remember, actions speak louder than words and a real man will respect your boundaries and not play emotional games.
#4. Love bombing
Unearned affection or love bombing can be a sign of a player. If he claims to have a crush on you after only knowing you for a while, it could be a red flag. Players use this tactic to manipulate your emotions and get what they want.
#5. Casual dating forever
When a guy insists on casual dating and avoids discussing commitment, it can be a way to kick the can down the road. Eventually, the road can come to an end, leaving you disheartened and hoping for something more meaningful.
#6. Secret Behavior
If he avoids hanging out with you in public and hides his interactions with his phone or social media, it could mean he’s not serious about the relationship. A real man should be proud to introduce you to his friends and family.
#7. Manipulator Pressure
A player will try to manipulate you into feeling guilty about not engaging in sexual activities. Respect your boundaries and understand that if he really cares about you, he will respect your pace.
#8. False promises and excuses
When a man dangles the carrot of a brighter future or offers excuses for his current situation, be careful. Unless he makes an effort to change, things are unlikely to improve.
#9. Avoiding Public Dating
If he constantly suggests staying in and avoids public places, it could be a sign that he’s not interested in a genuine relationship. A healthy relationship should include a combination of private and public experiences.
Conclusion:
Recognizing when a man is playing you is vital to protecting yourself from emotional manipulation and heartache. Trust your gut and don’t ignore the warning signs. Remember that a truly committed and sincere partner will respect your boundaries, make concrete plans, and show his affection with actions, not empty words. Don’t settle for someone who plays games when you deserve someone who is ready for a genuine and loving relationship.
