Forced orgasms occur when a person consents to orgasm through continuous sexual stimulation. Learn how to enjoy doing it safely.
A forced orgasm describes a scenario where a person is brought to orgasm through continuous sexual stimulation, despite their efforts to resist or lack of role-played consent.
It is important to note that all activities within BDSM, including forced orgasms, are based on the fundamental principles of safe, sane and consensual (SSC) or risk-aware consensual (RACK).
Quick FAQ
A forced orgasm is when a person consents to be given an orgasm through continuous sexual stimulation while role-playing a lack of consent.
Two people should first consent to a forced orgasm and decide on safe words. Couples can choose to use restraints and sex toys to enhance the experience.
Safe words are words that couples decide to use as a signal if one partner wants to stop sexual activity.
The person experiencing the forced orgasm has previously consented to this activity and has the power to stop it at any time using safe words or signals.
This practice explores the dynamics of power and control and can be very enjoyable and exciting for both parties involved.
How does forced orgasm happen?
Forced orgasms often involve the use of restraints to limit the recipient’s ability to stop stimulation. It may also include toys or manual methods of inducing orgasm.
How it plays can vary depending on the receiver’s anatomy and preferences, as well as the receiver’s stamina and preferences.
Women have shorter periods of resiliencetherefore, if they are the recipient, they can be driven to orgasm multiple times.
Depending on her preference, this could be done through manual stimulation or a sex toy such as a bullet vibrator.
Conversely, because men have longer periods of resilience, they may undergo orgasm denial. It is when a person is aroused to the brink of orgasm before the arousal stops.
The receiving partner can ask for permission to orgasm, or the giving partner can instruct their partner to orgasm.
Role-playing scenes can also be incorporated, such as a doctor “forcing” his patient to orgasm during an examination.
How to start engaging in forced orgasms
Getting started with forced orgasms in consensual BDSM play involves open communication, mutual trust, and a full understanding of each other’s boundaries and desires.
Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you navigate this exciting journey with your partner:
1. Education
Take the time to educate yourself about BDSM practices, including forced orgasms.
Read books, watch instructional videos, or attend workshops together to deepen your understanding of the techniques, safety precautions, and psychological aspects involved in BDSM play.
2. Communication and Safe Words
Have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your interests, limits, and desires regarding forced orgasms.
Discuss what excites you about the idea and any concerns or limits you may have.
Establish clear communication channels and agree on safe words or signals to indicate when to stop or slow down.
Partners should choose a word or sign that is easy to remember and should not be taken as part of the dialogue. Examples of commonly used safe words include:
Establishing and respecting safe words allows for responsible and consensual BDSM play, prioritizing mutual pleasure and well-being.
3. Pain scale
Everyone has a different level of pain tolerance. Partners should confirm what types of pain they want to avoid.
Start with gentle stimulation. As the stimulation intensifies, the receiver must state what the pain level is on a scale of 1 to 10.
Each partner should have the highest level of pain they are willing to experience.
The giver should pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues and limit the intensity if it reaches the recipient’s maximum tolerance level.
4. Objects and sex toys
Partners can incorporate a variety of objects and sex toys when engaging in forced orgasms. Here are a few to discuss whether or not to include:
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Vibrators: Used to provide intense stimulation to the genitals.
- Dildos: Used for penetration and to enhance stimulation.
- Restraints: Handcuffs, rope or tape to restrain the recipient.
- Blindfolded: Sensory deprivation can intensify the experience and heighten anticipation.
- Impact toys: Paddles, paddles or crops can add pain or pleasure to the play session.
5. Establish consent
Consent it’s non-negotiable in BDSM play. Make sure that both you and your partner fully consent to engaging in forced orgasms and that your consent is continuous throughout the experience.
Make sure you both understand and respect each other’s limits and boundaries before you begin.
6. Set the scene
Create a safe and comfortable environment for your gaming session. Consider factors such as lighting, ambiance and privacy to enhance the mood and reduce distractions.
Set up any necessary equipment or props in advance to ensure a smooth and seamless experience.
7. Start slow
If you are new to forced orgasms, start slowly and gradually increase the intensity over time.
Experiment with different techniques, such as using toys, restraints, or sensory deprivation, to enhance arousal and arousal. Pay attention to your partner’s responses and adjust accordingly.
8. Check-in
Throughout your play session, check in regularly with your partner to make sure they are comfortable and having fun.
Use verbal or non-verbal cues to gauge their level of arousal and adjust the intensity of stimulation as needed. Remember, communication is the key to a satisfying and consensual experience.
9. Follow-up care
After your play session, engage in aftercare to ensure emotional and physical well-being. The receiver may experience hypo-drop.
Sub drop refers to the emotional and physical effect a sub experiences after an intense BDSM scene. It can include feelings such as:
- Depression
- Worry
- Hunger
- Fatigue
- Emotional vulnerability
The hypo occurs due to hormonal and neurological changes during BDSM play, leading to a temporary imbalance in mood and energy levels.
Offer reassurance, hugs and affection to help your partner return to a relaxed state and process any strong emotions or sensations they may have been experiencing. Prioritize their mental, emotional and physical needs.
By following these steps and establishing open communication, trust, and mutual respect, you can safely and responsibly explore forced orgasms with your partner, enhancing intimacy and pleasure in your relationship.
Packed food
Remember that forced orgasm is a consensual BDSM practice. Within agreed limits, one partner may choose to bring the other to climax, often using restraints and toys.
Key tips include prioritizing clear communication, establishing a safe word, and ensuring mutual consent and understanding of each other’s boundaries.
Remember, exploring such dynamics should be a journey of trust, discovery and respect for personal boundaries.
Embrace this exploration with openness and care, allowing for a deeper connection and enriched experiences.
Dive in with confidence and an open heart, ready to explore the depths of pleasure and consent together.
