If you’re a good guy and can never be cut loose, then read my story and find out, young padawan.
When I was a lost soul in my twenties, there was a hot 24-year-old barista I had the blue balls for.
It was one of those cafes that only hired hot girls, so of course it was my favorite. I often went there to read and talk to her. After a while, she got the hint that she liked me, and I think she considered me, but I was too “nice” to ask her out.
I didn’t want to push her away, seem too forward, or risk rejection. So I kept drinking coffee, staring at her tight ass, flirting but never making my move.
Tony’s portrait of the nice guy
One day he drew my portrait on a napkin. He was the sweetest, nicest guy. It even gave me anime eyes. He was like a reverse image of Dorian Grey… apparently he saw me as a huge cunt.
Of course, I never hit her. I had no chance because I was a typical, boring, nice guy.
Since then, I’ve shed that nice guy persona and toughened myself up by approaching thousands of women. I remember those days with a missed opportunity.
It’s true that nice guys finish last, and it’s 100% our fault and not at all the women who don’t find this nice guy behavior attractive.
So, get your guts out of that glory hole and read on.
Here are 8 reasons why cool guys never catch a break.
Nice guys don’t approach women
Nice guys are too polite to hit on women.
They justify their lack of ambition by telling themselves that they only approach women as “purses” or “chads”.
And because they are “gentlemen”, they would never impose themselves on a poor girl while she is shopping, reading a book, talking on her phone or dancing at the bar.
The nice guy will find hundreds of reasons why they shouldn’t approach a girl and because they don’t, they don’t meet any women.
This guarantees that they have zero chance of being placed.
They think sexuality is creepy
Nice guys don’t want to fool girls. They have a misconception that showing sexual intent to women is scary, creepy, or weird.
While there’s always a risk of dragging a girl out, it’s usually beyond your control. It’s actually creepier to look at someone than to talk to them. And if the girl gets upset because you said hi to her or asked for her number, then she’s the one in trouble.
You can’t control how women feel and you shouldn’t care anyway. Do what you have to do to find a partner. Risk of being creepy. It is OK.
They don’t want to be annoying
Nice guys avoid approaching women because they don’t want to bother or annoy them. But guess what. If they don’t take the initiative to interact, they will never get off the hook. And what if she was just waiting to meet a guy like him?
Sure, some women may not appreciate the attention, but others will be flattered. You’ll never know until you try.
I give you permission to be annoying. Go bother 100 girls, and they’ll probably lay you down.
They worry what people think of them
Nice guys are paralyzed by the fear of what others might think of them.
But here’s the truth: Once you start taking action and seeing results, you’ll care less about other people’s judgment. Confidence is sexy and worrying about what other people think is only holding you back from achieving your goals.
Go talk to 300 odd women and then see how many lusts you have.
They don’t want to rock the boat
Nice guys hate to rock the boat or cause any kind of disturbance. But the Universe rewards those who take risks and challenge the matrix.
When you rock the boat it drops the useless passengers and gives you the chance to climb up, become the Captain of the ship. Well, rock the damn boat. Throw mutiny!
They prefer to be unseen and unheard
Nice guys fade into the background, hoping to avoid attention or scrutiny. But to attract women, you need to be seen and heard.
Take up space, express yourself with confidence and don’t be afraid to stand out from the crowd. Being an expressive man will set you apart from the hordes of boring nice guys. Have your say and say it loud.
Nice guys are liars about their feelings, beliefs, and intentions
Nice guys hide their true feelings or intentions, fearing rejection or judgment. This essentially makes them liars.
Nice guys will pretend to be friendly when they actually have ulterior motives. They’ll drive a girl around town, buy her dinners, and paint her house, all under the guise of being a good friend.
Stop lying to women and start showing them how you really feel. State your real opinions and express your true beliefs. You will start to relax, I promise.
They are very passive
Nice guys tend to be passive, waiting for life to happen to them instead of taking action.
But hot girls aren’t attracted to passive guys. They are attracted to men of action, men who take risks. The greatest danger in modern times is rejection by a beautiful woman.
So the act of approaching and hitting on a girl is an attractive quality in itself just to avoid being passive.
Don’t wait for opportunities to come your way. go out and create them.
They will not risk rejection
If you never ask a girl out, then you will never be rejected. This means that the fragile handsome man’s self-esteem will never be crushed.
The good guy will tell himself that he respects the bachmen, and he’s not going to hit her, and he’s not going to be a jerk. But really, it’s just a huge gimmick and he doesn’t want to crush his fragile ego by rejecting him.
conclusion
So here are eight reasons why nice guys have a hard time relaxing.
But here’s the good news: You have the power to change your approach and start seeing different results.
Don’t let being “good” keep you from living the fulfilling sex life you desire. Take charge of your love life, be bold and watch as your dating prospects improve.
POSTSCRIPT Did you know that I have a free course called “Easy Openers” that teaches you exactly what to say to girls about the approach. You can check it out now in my free Skool community.
