How do you know if you are the one for him? How can you make him see that you are the perfect partner for him?
These are questions that many women ask themselves, especially when they are in a serious relationship and want to take it to the next level.
While there is no definitive answer to these questions, there are some signs that can indicate you are on the right track.
In this article, I’ll break it down into seven things that show him you’re The One, based on scientific research and expert advice. These are not tricks or manipulations, but genuine ways to be yourself and strengthen your relationship.
1. You make him feel good about himself.
One of the most important factors in relationship satisfaction is how partners feel about each other.
According to a mass study 2020one of the strongest predictors of relationship satisfaction is how much partners admire each other and boost each other’s self-esteem.
When you make him feel good about himself, you show him that you appreciate his qualities, talents, and achievements. You also show him that you support his goals and dreams and that you are his biggest fan. This makes him feel confident, happy and loved.
And let’s think about it, what man wouldn’t want to be with a woman who lifts him up and pushes him to be a better version of himself that fulfills all his goals and dreams?
2. You don’t agree on everything.
Contrary to popular belief, being compatible does not mean you have the same opinions, preferences or hobbies. In fact, having some differences can be beneficial to your relationship as long as you respect and accept them.
According to another study as of 2020, one of the signs that you’re The One for him is that you don’t agree on everything.
This shows him that you have your own personality, perspective and values. It also shows him that you can handle conflict constructively and that you are willing to compromise and learn from each other. Having some disagreements can also keep your relationship interesting and stimulating.

3. You show him your empathy.
Empathy is the ability to understand and share another person’s feelings and is essential to building trust, respect and love in a relationship.
When you empathize, you show them that you care about their feelings, thoughts, and experiences. You also show him that you can listen without judging, offer comfort without pity, and give advice without imposing.
A 2018 study found that one of the neurochemical components of relationship satisfaction is practicing empathy.
When you practice empathy, you activate the areas of the brain associated with attachment, reward, and pleasure.
4. Control your emotions and stress.
Another neurochemical component of relationship satisfaction is controlling your emotions and stress.
This means you are able to regulate your emotions, face challenges and manage your expectations in a healthy way. When you control your emotions and stress, you show him that you are mature, resilient and adaptable.
You also show him that you can handle difficult situations without overreacting, blaming or withdrawing.
This makes him feel safe, secure and calm with you. In other words, you “bring him peace”, as is so popular a phrase in the manosphere community.
But it’s a real feeling that men get from the fact that their woman is a source of peace and not drama. A relationship is supposed to be about lifting each other up to make 1 better life together.
5. Keep positive views of your partner.
The way you think about your partner can have a huge impact on your relationship satisfaction.
According to cognitive-behavioral theory, our thoughts influence our feelings and behaviors. So, if you have positive thoughts about your partner, you will feel more affectionate and behave more lovingly towards them.
On the other hand, if you have negative thoughts about your partner, you will feel more resentful and act more hostile towards them.
When you maintain positive views of your partner, you show them that you are focusing on their strengths rather than their weaknesses. You also show him that you are giving him the benefit of the doubt rather than jumping to conclusions. This makes him feel respected, valued and appreciated.
And if there’s one thing men crave from their women above all else, it’s to be respected.
Ladies, this is because between men respect has to be earned, and when you show him that you respect him, you show him that he has really lived up to being the kind of man he thinks you deserve.
6. Relax and have fun together.
Having fun together is another sign that you are the One for him. And it’s because having fun together means you enjoy each other’s company, share common interests, and laugh often.
Many studies have shown that couples who have fun together report higher levels of relationship satisfaction.
When you have fun together, you show him that you’re compatible, adventurous, and spontaneous. And that tells him you’re the kind of woman who can keep the spark alive in your relationship.
So find things you both enjoy or better yet, go have some new experiences in your area and enjoy them together.
Psychologists refer to these types of experiences as first and truly building the foundation of a healthy and lifelong relationship.

7. You agree to have or not to have children.
One of the most important decisions couples face is whether to have children. This decision can affect many aspects of your relationship, including lifestyle, finances, values and future.
I want to get serious for a moment, I personally know an elderly couple who just got divorced because they claimed they were sterile their entire marriage when they weren’t so they didn’t need to have children and all they wanted was for me to be a mom…
Having children or not is something you have to discuss and agree on or it’s a nightmare for both of you waiting to happen.
One of the biggest moderators of relationship satisfaction is whether partners agree on children and research has shown this to be true. When you agree on children, you show him that you have similar goals and visions for your relationship. You also show him that you are ready to commit to each other and to a potential family.
Show him that you are the woman he wants to build a life with and show him that you are The One
These are just some of the things you can do to show him that you are the One for him. While every man’s dream woman can be different, there are several key commonalities we look for, and once we find a woman who meets these ideas of what we think would make a good wife, we usually don’t wait long to try and lock her down. .
The key is to be yourself, communicate openly and love sincerely. If you do this, you will not only show him that you are the One for him, but also that he is the One for you.
David N. Brace is a relationship expert who lives what he preaches having built a happy marriage of 20 years. Relationships take work and effort, but if we’re willing to do it and continue to grow as individuals, we can build something amazing that will last a lifetime.
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