This could be the secret to turning her on and blowing her mind
I probably had a eulogy from the moment I felt my first flush of horn.
But I didn’t fully understand it until I actually heard the term.
Once I heard those two words back to back, all the pieces of the puzzle fell into place.
It made me understand why certain words can turn me on like a light switch.
So I understood why I find people who are pleasant during sex so hot, even though I hate it in every other part of my life.
And it taught me why I felt like something was missing from my sex life, even though it was full of pleasure and intense orgasms.
Because everyone loves a good compliment. But for people like me, it goes much deeper than that. It hits the brain’s lewd pleasure center like nothing else can.
It’s hotter than a good hit. It is more stimulating than nipple play. And being able to earn praise makes sex ten times more attractive.
It’s also a fairly common conflict. Many women go about their daily lives with a strong secret desire to be called a good girl while plowing through.
Not everyone knows that, though. He certainly didn’t.
And those who are fully aware of giving dirty compliments don’t always know how to put it into words.
So there’s a chance your partner is having a full-on compliment conflict and doesn’t even realize it—or hasn’t found a way to tell you.
Which is a real shame, because knowing her twists and turns is the ticket to blowing her mind in a way that really excites her. A way that will not only make her come, but make her horny and fulfill all kinds of emotional needs.
There are many secret good girls out there. Here are some tips that your lady might be one of them.
Her love language is words of affirmation
If you’ve been with her for a while, you’ve probably completed one of these love language quizzes together.
And if you haven’t, you really should.
It might seem a little silly at first. The five basic languages are somewhat incomplete and not subtle enough. And it’s a tool that can be used for evil – like when dudes claim they need a weekly dick polish because their love language is physical contact.
But it’s a really good conversation starter. It may also give you some clues as to what you could do to make your relationship stronger.
And if she shows you that nothing makes her feel loved like words of affirmation, that’s a hint that a really good compliment can make her very horny.
However, this is not watertight proof.
My biggest love language is giving gifts, but I still want to be told I’m good with my mouth when I’m stuffed with a dick.
And I’m sure there are plenty of women out there who crave words of affirmation on the streets, but prefer the natural touch on the sheets.
But there’s a decent chance her love language and inflections will match, so it’s worth exploring.
He wants you to talk dirty
Dirty talk is just hot. And most guys could really turn up the heat just by turning up the volume.
So if she asked you to talk dirty to her, there is nothing unusual about that request.
However, it is one of the tactics girls will use to sneak more compliments into their sex life.
This is especially true when it is not fully pressed that they come down to it. They just know something is missing, and if you talked dirty enough, you’d probably say at least a few things that hit the mark.
And if you’re already very verbal during sex and she still complains that it’s not enough, then it’s probably one of two things.
Either she’s insatiable and wants you to say whatever dirty things you can imagine and not shut up until you’re both done.
Or there’s something missing from your dirty talk that she can’t put her finger on. And there’s a very good chance you’ll call her a good girl when you they go balls deep inside her.
She fucks like a champ after you compliment her
He hasn’t told you he has a commendation, but he might have shown you that he does.
Because you let one little compliment slip and suddenly it’s like you’re fucking a completely different girl.
Like that time you told her she looked crazy when you bent over her – and then she rode you so hard she could barely walk.
Or when you told her she gives incredible head and she blew you off so enthusiastically you thought you died and went to porn heaven.
Or if you’ve ever felt bold and left a “good girl” while she was taking your cock out of a boxer brief – and then you were shocked that she turned into a little sex puppet and let you do all the nasty things you usually have to beg her for.
This is her eulogy in action. She is hot and bothered about these dirty verbal affirmations.
She’s also the one who shows you how you can really turn her on and bring out her inner dirty girl.
She fishes for compliments when you fuck her
This is another ambiguous one, because it is a very common style of dirty talk.
As if asking “Does it feel good?” when he strokes your dick.
Or saying “You like it fucking my mouth?” after you entered it with great anticipation.
Or “Do you want me to continue?” after pulling up her shirt just enough to tease you with something underwater.
It’s super playful and incredibly sexy, so it’s something you can hear from any girl with a foul mouth.
But it also happens to be a great way to get you to compliment her. And that may be exactly what it does.
Fishing for compliments can be part of the fun. It might be her way of continuing the dirty talk. It could be her teasing style. It can make her feel like a little show off, which she could really be into.
But if your lady has a compliment and you want to drive her crazy, you shouldn’t wait until she gets you to compliment her. Instead, give her plenty of dirty praise that she earned but didn’t ask for and you’ll make her want to jump your bones like never before.
She needs to get ripped for sex
This is going to be somewhat controversial.
Because many ladies with complimentary curves will be happy to be spanked after washing off their makeup or they ride their partner’s face while wearing their old college sweater.
It’s also very typical for women to be aroused much more easily when they feel cute – no matter what kind of conflict or sexual preference they have.
But if her need for praise is strong enough, she might only be interested in having sex if you have a chance to say nice things about her while she’s taking your dick. And that could be why she doesn’t want to be risky, unless she’s glowing like she’s getting ready for a photo shoot.
Because she doesn’t just want compliments – she wants honest compliments. And she might not buy any of your sweets unless she’s finished them all and feels as cute as you say she is.
Treat her like a good girl
There are many small telltale signs that your lady has a complimenting turn.
But really, the biggest of them is that she’s alive and has a pulse.
Okay, just kidding. But only one kind. Because it’s really a pretty common conflict. And unless she’s specifically discouraged about the degradation, dishing out a little praise can only make sex better for her.
Plus, most men would be a lot hotter in bed if they went to bed assuming they were fucking someone with a turn of praise.
So give him a chance. Tell her she’s amazing with her mouth, tell her the way she bounces on your cock drives you crazy, and tell her how hot she looks getting fucked. Even if she doesn’t get wet from being called a good girl, she’ll appreciate that you’re talkative, present, and enthusiastic.
If you enjoyed this article, you should totally check it out How to Seduce a Married Woman (Although You Really Shouldn’t) episode of my dirty and intimate sex podcast, Pillow Talk with Emma Austin!
